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Soul Imprints – Easing the loss of our pets and fur babies

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Coping with the loss of our pets and fur babies 🙁

My first significant pet was a ginger and white tom cat called Mischief. My family got him when I was a young teenager, and he had an amazing life with many adventures. He had a great personality and was in general quite protective, I can remember him baling up the garbage man as he thought he was the guard “dog”. He was also a one family cat, as whenever we had visitors he would disappear, to magically show up again when all was calm. He also coped with multiple family moves, so long as he was with us, he was happy. He lived to a very mature age, surviving cancer of the ears and at one time being run over, accidently, by our car. He decided to travel over the rainbow bridge at a time when a blessed great aunt of mine also passed away. I had also just had a baby and was kept very preoccupied. So, although I felt his loss, it became mixed up with many other emotions. 

As a family we have loved and lost many precious pets and fur babies across the last 45 years. Our various menagerie has included dogs, cats, budgies, lorikeets and finches. Each with their own personalities and attributes. Overall, we have also been blessed with longevity with our pets, with our beautiful cat Lady, achieving 18 years of age and three of our dogs, Skip, Bulliet, Bailey also being advanced seniors.

What I have noticed is that I have felt the loss more deeply as I have also aged. This could also be due to the fact that when we experienced the loss as our children were younger, they required more of my time, so I had less personal time to grieve as deeply. 

I also believe that we have special or soul connection to specific pets. My fur soul partner was my beautiful cat Lady (the one who lived until 18+). Although I am now foster caring for wonderful cats, who I love deeply, I had never felt as though I could replace Lady. These wonderful animal gifts, give us beautiful soul imprints during their lifetime to assist us to cope when they have crossed over the rainbow bridge. 

Our last two, family dogs Bailey and Bulliet were also soul connections. Although Bailey was definitely deeply connected to my mum’s energy. Whenever she was in trouble or needed care, she went to look for my mum. Her passing also mirrored my mum’s end of life journey 🙁

Bulliet’s final years were as the older ‘brother’ to our sons two dogs. A time that he both liked and disliked, if that makes sense. The cranky grandfather being surrounded by two boisterous teenagers :). When the time came for Bulliet to cross the rainbow bridge, I felt it as a deep, raw emotion, but I was also kept somewhat grounded by my little grandchildren’s natural curiosity as to how and what happened…Children definitely appear to experience pet loss and death with more acceptance. 

I was also noticing that many of my friends and acquaintances were also experiencing the loss of their fur babies. It got me thinking about our soul connections and how the memories of better times help to ease the pain. Grief is a natural experience, and it is right to grieve, plus we all grieve in different ways, methods and times. It’s a very personal journey.

Pondering on my feelings and with guidance from my angels I decided to create the newest Kinique’ly for You – Emotional Healing Mist. “Soul Imprints”. The beautiful soul imprints mist helps to heal the heart and soul. Whenever creating a Mist, I tap into my intuition and guidance, meditate on the words, the ingredients and importantly the reason it is required.

Blessings, I am sorry for your loss.

Marney

Available in 100ml and 50 ml options from my website or at my clinic. Wholesale options also available.

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Vision Boards for Business Success.

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A vision board is a way of declaring or showing the universe your intention for a more delicious life by gaining clarity on your goals, dreams and aspirations. A vision board is your personal blue print, a visual road map for a success. Created as a collage of positive, uplifting and inspiring pictures and words it helps to identify what you desire to own your delicious life.  Tapping into your creative brain and accessing subliminal and subconscious desires for a more balanced or abundant life/style it brings these goals and dreams to the conscious or current mindful awareness.

The concept of being mindful and focusing one’s attention to better outcomes and solutions has gained recent popularity due to The Secret and the talk of the Law of Attraction. These concepts demonstrated various people who practiced mindfulness and an abundance mentality by using positive actions and affirmations to change their current circumstances for the better.

Anyone can benefit from a vision board and they can made in many different ways. By not fully controlling the pictures or words you cut out will allow you subconscious brain to choose ones that align to your visions and goals. It is like taking the logic away and being totally creative.

To create change, action is essential—otherwise, your results will remain the same. When life throws challenges your way, clarity and goals guide your next steps. Without a clear vision, it’s like traveling to a new place without directions. A personal blueprint helps you spot opportunities around you.

An example of this is when someone is looking for a better job. You know you would like to change your job, however unless you have worked out or gained clarity on what you are looking for how will you know when you find it? Maybe you require different qualifications, so on your vision board you place a photo/picture of that new profession. Suddenly you notice in the local newspaper that a course is being offered that will help you achieve the new job. Prior to creating a vision board your consciousness awareness would not have seen that advertisement. That is the art of mindfulness and the visual reminder on your vision board helps you to stay focused.

Business owners start their businesses with a crystal and champagne mindset and enthusiasm to match. They are passionate about an idea, concept or product and a process is put in place to bring that passion to life. For many people “words” create a picture in their mind, that helps them to visualise what that business looks like as the big picture. This is a right-brain hemisphere activity. An example of this is a car yard, the concept is to sell cars and the visual going with that idea is easily seen in the minds eye.

One of the very basic administrative plans for success in business is a business plan.  A business plan is a document that summarizes the operational and financial objectives of a business, usually a new one, and contains the detailed plans and budgets showing how the objectives are to be realized. It is the practical road map to the success of your business. These plans are often looked at every five years, or when a new direction is being looked at. This attention to detail is a left-brain hemisphere activity.

Not every business owner connects to a written document, although the words are expressing their business direction, they are too detailed to ‘see’ a picture that it represents.

Enter the UBER of business plans, the Vision Board for Business Success.

As with any business tools and success planning it is a good practice to review your progress on an annual basis, reassess any accomplishments during the year and upgrade new growth potential and direction. Vision Boards are lots of fun and can assist business owners to gain clarity and to align their vision, passion and purpose to gain further business success. They help to create new neural pathways for success, you will be amazed at the changes that occur.

Many famous people have used Vision Boards to find achieve success including: –

Ellen DeGeneres used a vision board about her dreams of being on the cover of Oprah’s magazine. For nearly every issue Oprah had been the cover girl, and then Ellen got her dream.

Spanx Creator Sara Blakely talks about using visualization to be ‘self-employed, invent a product that she could sell to a lot of people, and to create a business that would be able to fund itself.’ Her dreams became reality.

Katy Perry made a vision board when she was nine years old using a photo of the young Latin pop singer holding her golden statuette, fifteen years later, Perry was nominated for her first Grammy Award.

Beyonce has a picture of an Academy award right near her treadmill that she looks at daily so she can keep her goals literally right in front of her. The movie Dream Girls that she starred in was nominated for an Academy award.

Does creating a vision board guarantee that all aspirations depicted will materialise? Not necessarily. However, clearly identifying your goals is an essential first step in pursuing them. Developing self-awareness regarding your objectives enables you to recognise potential opportunities as they arise. Vision boards serve as a tool to maintain focus on your ambitions, integrating your goals into your conscious thought process. Ultimately, action remains the primary driver of success; without taking deliberate steps, progress cannot be achieved.

The Art of Success

The Art of Celebrating Success!

In a recent article I wrote published by Women’s Network Australia I share some of the ways you can celebrate your successes, big and small. I encourage you to take note of the reasons and learn to embrace success and celebrations.

Busyness is not a reason or an excuse!

Enjoy.

The Art Of Celebrating Success

MARNEY PERNA
BUSINESS CONSULTING & COACHING

Business owners, especially women business owners of small to medium businesses, often forget a very important aspect of success.

As a woman in business, how often do you, find or make the time to celebrate your wins and successes?  How often do you, downplay or ignore the compliment of well done?  Why are most men better at doing this than the majority of woman?  

 “The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more in life there is to celebrate.”  (Oprah Winfrey) 

 

 IN OTHER WORDS, YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW!  

 Now there are several reasons why achievements and wins are not celebrated and one such reason is time. Women are often so busy being busy that they move from one project to another without a break. However, when they take the time to celebrate, they are doing something very important.  They are creating and forming neural pathways that trigger the feelings of achievement.  

 The brain, the body’s master computer, records all feelings, circumstances and emotions of each and every action done, and creates files. These files do record the positive/negative or neutral energy responses. These imprints are recorded into our subconscious, thus creating a scale of reference with which to judge a similar experience. It’s important to understand the brain doesn’t really care which response is accessed when a similar circumstance comes up. It will default to the highest energy reaction. By anchoring the celebration, the default reaction will be one of happiness. This will instigate the release of happy endorphins of success. It is also important to know also that all positive acknowledgments of success add to the particular story file: big or small, perceived or actual. 

 “Collaboration, celebration and gratitude create impressions of success in your subconscious, so that you may create future experiences in which you feel celebrated and grateful”(Loral Langemeier)

 Celebrations can take many forms including:  

  • High Five Yourself 
  • Phone a friend or colleague 
  • Sharing via a business newsletter or social media 
  • Nominating for a business award 
  • Voice your excitement out loud  
  • Throw a party, special dinner or specific celebration 

 By celebrating the successes, big and small, helps to build reserves of success memories that can keep one motivated and happy. Small successes are often a precursor to bigger ones and all steps forward are positive. 

 “Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed”  (Mia Hamm)

 So why are men better at celebrating success? One reason is their brains are wired differently, they respond and react to a primitive reflex similar to an ape beating his chest. This act of bravado is designed to tell everyone they are the biggest and best and to scare off any competitors. It also stimulates male hormones that respond to feelings of strength and a positive mindset. This primitive reflex goes back to an ancient time when the men were the hunters and gatherers. 

 Female primitive reflexes were more the nurturer and protector. Their primitive reflex influences didn’t need to show off, unless they felt their young were under threat. Then watch them roar! 

In general men are not as affected by the tall poppy syndrome, being more inclined to back themselves confidently, even if they don’t always believe it to be true. A fake it, until you make it confidence! Women often worry about being seen as too pushy and are often less confident and generally more inclined to celebrate another’s achievements than their own.  

 However, we can bypass these generalisms by remembering a time when women were encouraged to have a go, clapped when they achieved even small steps, celebrated with at each and every milestone regardless of how long it took them. Remember back to the formative years, when celebrating achievements was simple and easily done. The neural pathways of success were formed but they may have been forgotten or lost by the complications of our teens and beyond.  

 Its time to reclaim and reignite the positive neural pathways of success celebrations and as confidence grows and expands, you in turn then become a light for others to follow and look up to.  

 “Success is not about the money you make, it’s about the difference you make in people’s lives” (Michelle Obama) 

Learn to cultivate and enjoy the ‘Art of Celebrating Success’! 

Thank you Women’s Network Australia for supporting your members.

Monster Begone Mist

Banish Monsters and Spooky Ghosts

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Monster Begone!

Does your little one get scared of monsters under the bed?
Do they suffer from night terrors?
Are they afraid of running up the darkened hallway?

I know the challenge that little ones have when they wake during the night and hear noises. They start to worry about spooky ghosts. During the daytime spooky ghosts are not so spooky, because there are more people around and it is brighter.

However, at night-time, the little one’s mind just goes into overdrive with thoughts of scary ghosts and monsters. As it grows and builds, they can become very scared and at times quite inconsolable. Logic goes out the window and comfort and nurturing are the best options.

A childhood memory.

I would like to share a personal story from my childhood.
When I was a very little girl, around the age of 6, our family moved from Maryborough to Brisbane. At the time I was suffering from a bout of scarlet fever, which Mum discovered at a later Drs appointment. It was thought that I had a stomach bug and a fever.

The fever would have contributed to my rather fertile febrile imagination and subsequent nightmare. As we had just moved in and the furniture hadn’t been fully unpacked, I was put to bed in the loungeroom of this new house. With the bank windows at the front it was lovely and bright and quite pleasant.

However, as night-time arrived and the darkness made everything gloomy, shadows started to appear at those once comforting windows.

Below the windows was a garden bed with tall, large bushy plants. They knocked against the window and made rather scary shadows. In my fevered state, I thought there was some wolves or wild dogs trying to get into get me. To this day I can still recall my terror and how frightened I was. I can recall being so scared I was an unable to call out to my mom or my dad, because I thought if I made a noise, they would get in through the window and get me. It was a long night!

Simple tips and suggestions.

Put yourself in your little one shoes if they’re experiencing a similar kind of scary thought process themselves. They need to know that their bedroom is a safe environment. They need to build the confidence to be able to call out.

It is lovely to teach them how to call on their guides and guardian angels to help prepare them. Maybe use a favourite nursery rhyme character that the children know and love.

In my childhood we would often say a little prayer before going off to sleep, it is a lovely and simple little prayer.
“There are four corners on my bed.
There are four angels around them spread.
Matthew, Mark, Luke and John.
God bless this bed that I lay on.”

It can be used to set the scene for a happier night’s sleep.

Emotional Healing Mists.

I am a qualified natural therapist specialising in kinesiology and I love to help by creating unique spritzers for health and harmony. My clinic range is called Kinique’ly for you Emotional Healing Mists and I have just released a beautiful one for the little ones.

It is called “Monster Begone” – Perfect for when I’m feeling gloomy and scared. I laugh my fears away. I joyfully banish the monsters and spooky ghosts and feel safe and nurtured all dark energies are instantly removed.

This is beneficial for children who experienced night terrors and anxiety.

The affirmation that I have created to go with this is simply “Go away monsters and spooky ghosts”.

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My little granddaughters, aged 2 and 4 have trialled my Monster Begone Mist and have assured me that my spooky ghost spray is the best, and they love it.

Can I help you slay the spooky ghosts and monsters for your little ones? Please reach out I would be delighted to assist you. My contact details are
Email: info@kinique.com
Website: www.kinique.com
FB: Kinique Kinesiology

Let’s banish those spooky ghosts and monsters and help our children feel safe and secure at night.

Blessings
Marney

Blog Sleep Soundly

Good sleep hygiene is a habit – Cultivate a better habit!

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Good sleep hygiene is a habit that is worth cultivating.

🥱🥱🥱Sleep deprivation affects good decision making!🥱👀🥱

Can stress make you tired? Absolutely!

Definition of Stress

Definition: “Stress is the internal process that occurs when a person is faced with a demand that is perceived to exceed the resources available to respond to it effectively, and where effective failure to deal with the demand has important and undesirable consequences”

A stress trigger is a causal point in which an incident activates this internal process. The higher negative emotional response to the initial incident, the more likely it is that this will be become a default response.

Negative stress triggers contribute to insomnia, lack of sleep, inability to stay asleep, interrupted sleep and poor sleep hygiene.

What is Sleep Hygiene?

Strong sleep hygiene means having both a bedroom environment and daily routines that promote consistent, uninterrupted sleep. Environmental aspects include ensuring your bedroom  has a limited number of electronic equipment. That it is a dust free and well ventilated area. However, there is yet another aspect that can be worked on. This is your mental chatter or mindset. Your brain is a very powerful tool that assists you to make better decisions and to find solutions to challenges. Your decisions will be affected when you are sleep deprived or running on empty energy.

Three simple mindset tips to prepare for a good night’s sleep.

😴First Mindset Tip: “Start by setting the intention of having the best night sleep ever will.”
😴Second Mindset Tip: “Then relax yourself by imagining waking up tomorrow feeling refreshed and energised.”
😴Third Mindset Tip: “Finally tell yourself it is safe to sleep, knowing that if any emergency happens during the night you will hear and deal with it.”

Good sleep hygiene is a habit, cultivating healthy habits is a good start.

Do you need more help?

My latest Emotional Healing Mist ~Sleep Soundly helps you to relax and enjoy a good nights sleep. In addition to my secret ingredients I have added some essential oils known to have good results for aiding sleep.  Essential oils work with the emotional response in your limbic brain to send the message of safety allowing you to relax. They  have been used for hundreds of years as a direct conduit connection to your emotional memories. Interestingly, your sense of smell is the highest or more acute of your five senses and a scent takes you back immediately to an event or situation.

Not only does my Kinique’ly for You – Sleep Soundly Emotional Healing Mist anchor a positive sleep message and feeling, each bottle comes with a stunning  “I relax and enjoy a good night’s sleep’ affirmation card.

Available now via the shopping cart on my website, plus I can easily post it to you.

 

 

 

Business success

From adversity to recovery via the detour of adaption.

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How to overcome fears triggered by adversity and transform your business mindset in five steps? Energy goes where thoughts flow. In life we respond to adversity, challenges, or calamities by recalling a past memory file. This memory file is a part of the massive collection of stories, memories, and events, both real and imagined kept in the brain’s vast memory banks. The sequence or reason of storing a memory or fantasy is also activated by the ‘value’ or ‘weight’ of an emotion registered. If you can imagine a rate register that records the impact of an experience. The higher the reaction the higher the memory trigger. The lower the reaction the less potential for response. Generally, a negative event will have a significantly higher emotional impact or energy rating.

Take a scenario, of a business owner who releases a new innovative product, they are excited, enthused, and confident, and register a high value rating.  However, the market reaction is negative, with many objecting comments and responses, the product doesn’t sell well and loses the business money. The emotions of rejection and self-doubt grow, and a new file of failure is added to the brain’s memory banks. These negative emotions outweigh the initial positive ones. Down the track the business owner decides to have another go, however, their brain is there to support them, to let them know that last time it didn’t work.

“We have to reshape our own perception of how we view ourselves” Beyonce

Remember, that you attract what you focus your energy on. Self-doubt, negative self-talk, lack of confidence and fear will generally attract or validate a previous memory of negative self-belief and of failure. Imagine these negative emotions and feelings as a ‘Friendship Circle’. They will feel safe around each other and will invite similar energies to join them. Failure, procrastination, limited belief, family outdated belief systems! The list is endless. The “I told you so’s”, and the “it will never work experts” are also part of this group. With all that negativity it is an uphill battle within yourself, especially in your head, to go ahead and have a go.

So far, it’s, it’s about feelings or emotions, however, when circumstances and situations outside of your control also get filtered in, it can lead to disaster. These outside influences include but are not limited to the weather, financial constraints, other people opinions, world economic conditions and a big one is health.

“Create the highest grandest vison possible for your life because you become what you believe” Oprah Winfrey

To override the impact of a high negative memory response, the positive memory response, needs to be of a higher resonance and higher energy. The excitement of success must be higher than the fear of failure. It must excite you more than the negativity disappoints you. The memory banks will register and record a higher response, that will become the default reaction. Be the energy you want to attract. Create a positive ‘Friendship Circle’, to help with positive self-belief, high esteem, and empowering self-confidence. Include the “I am’s – I am enough, I am capable, I am successful” and the “You can do this family” as well.

“The most effective way to do it, is to do it.”  Amelia Earhart

Five Important steps for Recovery from Adversity

Step One: Identify your adversity and fears, be real and honest but don’t dwell on the negatives. Write them on a big sheet of paper and then begin to focus on defusing them with positive language intention. “My business is a failure” could be written as “My business is not successful at present”. “I am broke” to “I am not overly financial”. ‘I lost my job” to “I have no immediate employment “. The brain will register a more positive reaction to the second statements.

Kinesiology is brilliant in helping to identify your fears and blockages.  When you know what you are fearful of, you can start to take ownership of a more success orientated mindset.

Step Two: Adapt your thinking. Use affirmations to reinforce the positive belief and self-confidence messages.  Engage your five senses to further empower positive responses and uplifting energy. See, feel, smell, taste and hear confidence and empowerment. Adapt your environment by surrounding yourself with people and places that uplift your energy and give you support, especially emotional support and appropriate encouragement.

Identify and grow your ‘friendship circle’.

Step Three: Adapt the plan for the way forward.  Reshape your perception of how you see yourself. How can you adapt, are there things you could do to uplift or upskill?  Start by writing down what is needed. Make up scenarios, create lists and things to do. Be practical and positive. Remember to include the little steps as well as the big picture. This helps to integrate and activate both left and right hemispheres of the brain. The left is the logical and sequential thinking and the right is the more artistic and emotional component.

Step Four: Adapt your actions. Action anchors the recovery process. Replace False Expectations Appearing Real with Face Everything And Rise. To create a different outcome, you must do something different. Reach out and ask for help, do not be too proud. Another person may be able to see a way you have not thought of as yet. Follow your plan but be willing to be flexible and creative.

Step Five: Adapt, create, and claim an attitude of resilience and achievement. Resilience is a combination of inner self-confidence, a determined attitude and personal consistency.  If the first steps are too overwhelming or hard, break them down into more manageable steps. Consider variations to process always keeping the end goal in mind.

Life can be an adventure with many ups and downs; however you will always learn from any experience. The bonus is in understanding and knowing which experiences are the more beneficial and worthy of reacting to.  Recovery can be a slow process; however you won’t get there if you don’t start. Now is a great time!

If you are stuck in overwhelm, anxiety and mental fogginess, book your kinesiology appointment, and change your life for good.

 

Law of Abundance

Abundance Blockages and Five Easy Ways to Release Them

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Abundance Blockages and Five Easy Ways to Release them.

What is an abundance blockage and how can it affect my life? An abundance blockage is a energy block or limited belief about abundance that holds a negative energy. There is generally the thought or belief that too much abundance or wealth is greedy and sinful.

However, abundance does not always refer to money, there is also universal abundance. This includes access to appropriate shelter and clothing, having sufficient  food and water to eat, a good quality of life in regard to health and also of social connections which includes family and friends.

An abundance blockage affecting a business partnership

During a kinesiology ‘business’ consultation for two business partners, it was discovered that one of the blockages to their business growing was that one of them had a subconscious negative belief about making money. It stemmed from an old familial belief that ‘good girls didn’t make money’. When the goal of “My business makes money and enjoys success” was used the partners had opposing stress responses to the statement. This meant that the combined energy of their partnership conflicted with their goal. We were able to identify who had the blockage, release it for a more favorable one and slightly adapted the marketing messages to ensure they were congruent to each person’s belief system. The business went on to grow and succeed.

It also went to show why, for one of them, that their life also seemed such a constant struggle to acquire wealth and abundance. By identifying the blockage and installing a new updated, positive belief surrounding making money and a happier energy to move forward this person noticed doors of opportunities opening everywhere.

Five easy ways to release an abundance blockage.

  1. Identify which abundance statement makes you feel uncomfortable.
    “I enjoy abundance in my life!”
    “My life is filled with financial abundance!”
    “I find making money easy!”
    “I always have sufficient money for my bills!”
    “I enjoy receiving money from others!”
    Whichever statement makes you feel uneasy, write it down on a piece of paper whilst having an actual $50 note beside you. Each time you feel uneasy, look at the money and smile, then immediately write the phrase again. Write the statement 21 times. When finished, pick up the money, put it in your pocket, smile and  then walk away.
  2. Write down some positive affirmations regarding money and abundance and put them around your home. The fridge, bathroom mirror, near your car keys, on your desk, at work on the wall are all good places where you will see them regularly. When you notice them, say them out aloud. Always acknowledge gratitude and say thank you when you see or state them.
  3. Place a Chinese Lucky Coin in your purse or wallet. Make sure it has a red ribbon attached to them. As you use your credit card, refer to it as your fun card, knowing that to use it is a privilege that has a consequence.
  4. Place a decorative frog facing inwards at your front door and a turtle facing inwards at your back door. This helps to invite abundance into your home and not be drained outwards too quickly.
  5. Place your bills in a red folder that has pictures that mean success and abundance to you, on the cover. On the inside of the folder, attach a green envelope that has some money placed into it. This will invite a positive energy to the funds required to pay your bills.  (disclaimer is also ensuring your don’t wildly spend without thought or volition. )

Kinesiology is a great tool to identify abundance blockages in your energy and belief systems, it can help to discover where and why they are affecting you and how to remove and update them so that you will continue to invite and enjoy abundance in your life.

 

 

 

 

stress overload

Share meltdown not people melt down!

With the volatility of the share market in recent times, many people are experiencing re-occurring stress/anxiety attacks.  This is happening to both advisers and investors alike.  Our body reacts to stress the same way each time, unless the brain is given a different option or choice.  Our brains are the inbuilt computer banks of our lives and they record and store every event, sequence of events and outcome of events, emotion, and details for use at another time.  When a similar issue or challenge arises, it searches the memory banks to find the previous times and the solution it used.

The body is also amazing how it responds to danger, by accessing the Autonomic nervous system (ANS) via what is commonly known as adrenal response or flight/fight response.  This is a basic survival response and it does not require the ability to think, just run or fight!  When a person goes into adrenal response and does not let the shock go, it acts like a ratchet affect and gets tighter and tighter.  This limits a person ability to come up with a better or new response. This cascade affect in turn can result in a major health issue like Chronic Fatigue, PTSD, Stress/Anxiety Attacks, Cancer, Blood pressure to name but a few.

Help is at hand.  As wonderful as the brain is, it cannot always depict what is real or imagined, so it is possible to implant a different final scenario to that memory bank.  With the use of visualization techniques, a person can project a more favourable outcome or solution to the stressful challenge.  It is the same style of techniques used by many coaches of prime athlete/sports persons, they are goal based, and include a more desired outcome.  One natural therapy that uses Emotional Stress Release and Visualization as a form of stress management techniques is kinesiology.  It is a modality that incorporates Ancient Chinese Concepts coupled with Modern Western Knowledge and works on ensuring the emotional, physical and chemical aspects of life are in harmony.

In the situation of the Financial Adviser reacting to a sudden downturn on the stock market, it is not the actual event that causes them the stress or feel unwell. It is generally the remembered or emotional trauma trigger of a previous event that is the cause.  By being able to identify the actual emotion word trigger and where in the body it is being activated, a solution or result can be achieved.  Instead of reacting to the trauma trigger, they can act, with thought.  It gives the person the opportunity to come up with a different result by being able to step back from the stress and think.

Kinesiology is being used by many businesses to assist with work/life balance solutions, health and well being programs and by alleviating time away from work due to stress leave.  People who are not feeling stressed and are happy are less inclined to become ill and they perform and function better in the workplace.

At Kinique Consultancy, we love to help our clients cope better with stress by providing solutions to their stress triggers. This ensures they can perform their work more easily and happily.

Stress Management Tip

Resilience to Face Everything And Rise!

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Fear and Resilience

Today’s working environment is in a perpetual state of change. Even more so with the current restrictions and social isolation regulations that are in place due to COVID19. Jobs that were traditionally seen as safe and secure have also been impacted by the circumstances affecting the world at present. Employees are constantly feeling the stress and pressure of job insecurity. A government job is no longer the safe option with change occurring regularly. How do you cope with stress when facing redundancy and loss of income? How do you gain the resilience and confidence to start again?

Stress management expert Marney Perna shares some tips and strategies that enable her clients to cope better with life’s challenges.
Redundancy, retirement, retraining, job loss, bankruptcy, downsizing and budget constraints are words that can cause even the most confident and experienced worker to feel inadequate and fearful. Just the mention of these words can cause your body/brain/emotion connection to go into a downward spiral. It goes into the emotional flight/fight survival response of the brain. When in this survival response you are unable to come up with new solutions to your situation. This causes you to react rather than act with volition. This causes a chain reaction, as your life energy gets lower and lower it becomes harder and harder to cope with life and work/family responsibilities. The body will soon start to feel the physical and health effects of adrenal burnout.


Whilst working with groups of people that have been made redundant the overriding emotions are ones of disbelief, anger, fear, unfairness, disloyalty, and inadequacy. Their core belief in self is shaken and they start doubting their ability to perform their job to their best. Put plainly the body goes into shock and is often unable to function well or focus clearly. The ongoing and continual shock causes a build-up of stress reactions that can eventually lead to serious health complications. Fear has two acronyms False Expectations Appearing Real or Face Everything And Rise. One statement adds to the stress the other empowers opportunity.


Some of the negative health effects of this stress can be liver and heart issues, digestive complaints, blood pressure, anxiety, depression and in severe circumstances suicide.
Stress management techniques and resilience tools help the body to cope and function better and subsequently enables you to find the courage, confidence and clarity that is required to live with the change that is happening. Change can be very scary and yet without change stagnation occurs. The world is in a constant state of change and it is a necessary part of life. It is up to you to find peace in the change occurring and to be able to have the clarity to find a solution to the challenge. At this particular time many businesses that were predominately face to face services have adapted to providing online options and many businesses have also changed to utilising their staff working remotely from home. Networking and professional peer group businesses have also adapted to using new methods such as virtual online social gatherings and business networking meetings to provide support and training to their members. 


Here are five top strategies that you can use to help lift yourself up and find that resilience.


Tip 1 Smile often and happily.
Smiling activates the happy hormones that help to uplift and inspire. Smiling makes you feel better and is easily shared with others. It gives your body a pause button. Smiling is contagious and spreads easily, so use one often and create a new and uplifting trend.


Tip 2 Breathe deeply and mindfully.
An initial response to stress overload is to use shallow rapid short breaths. Take the time daily to breathe deeply and evenly. As you are breathing slow deep breaths give your mind a positive image to focus on, use the clear, crisp scent of peppermint oil to help you take nice deep breaths. To help open and release your heart region, pull your shoulders back and slightly raise your chin. Your diaphragm will find some room to move.


Tip 3 Be Mindful
Specific things and experiences make your body feel better. Be mindful about what they are and use them for times you are feeling down. Examples can be walking along the beach, listening to uplifting songs/music, online kinesiology/kinesiology/massage, phone a friend/family, using vibrational mists/gems, playing with your pet, or sharing a special meal with your partner. Allow yourself to be open to this changing world, adaptation can be a good resilience method to help you cope.


Tip 4. Surround yourself with positive people.
By mixing with other people who are encouraging and empowering you will find you energy levels increasing and be more open to opportunities. This enables you to regain your positive core belief and instils self-confidence in your abilities again.


Tip 5. Speak confidently and clearly.
Write down the negative words that are overcrowding your mind. Find words to replace the negative ones and use these words consistently. Using these positive words uplifts your life energy and encourages you to look for better options.


Importantly remember that if you are feeling totally overpowered and emotionally unable to cope talk to someone, seek professional help, ring your doctor and don’t be afraid to confide in others. Associations like Beyond Blue or Lifeline provide phone support to those experiencing severe anxiety and depression.

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Stress Overload – Someone Push the Off Button

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Ten easy ways to catch your breath and get back on track

Stress overload! Stress impacts your health and wellness. Have you ever been in a situation where you have so many things/jobs on the go at once that even if one small aspect of life shifts, everything else appears to tumble down almost in slow motion?  Have you also noticed that the last small detail is not usually a huge life changing moment?  More likely it is just the final straw to an already full stress bucket, the proverbial “straw that breaks the camel’s back”! The timing of the melt down is yet another raw nerve it is never at the most convenient time or place.

Everyone knows that if you have a job to get done, you give it to a busy person, because they will ensure that it gets done.  Unfortunately, it is the busy people who are also the ones that often forget to say that little word…’No’.  They feel compelled to take on more and more tasks until the overload becomes a heavy burden. The busy person is also most likely to be a perfectionist and one who is unlikely to delegate, because let’s face it that is why they get the extra jobs in the first place.

It is important to nurture yourself, to ensure that your stress load is manageable and does not cause you a debt that has to be repaid by your compromised health.  The world will give you a constant source of extra stuff to do, like the tide it can be never ending, however like the tide you have to be attuned to the flow of life and nature.

Learn to be aware of your body’s many signals to slow down, to take a breath, use techniques and symbols that give you back the remote control of your life, so that you can use the pause button and regain your life energy and health.

Ten tops tips to pause,  de-stress and energise: –

  1. Learn to say no, when no is appropriate.
  2. Enjoy a hot bath, each evening use candles for light and add an essential oil that nurtures and soothes. Totally relax and unwind, maybe set this time for mediation.
  3. Place a photo of your best holiday snap at your work station, when you are feeling overloaded, pause and look at that photo, remember the fun time it was and reconnect with that feeling, then recommence your work.
  4. When finding yourself feeling really angry or pent up, stop! Move one step backward and one step to the side, now count to ten and then consider the issue again.
  5. Give yourself permission to not always be perfect, do your best on the day.
  6. Have regular massage, yoga or kinesiology sessions to reduce stress build up.
  7. Enjoy a 10-minute stroll in the sunshine each day.
  8. Allocate time to relax and unwind with friends and family.
  9. Use colour to uplift and inspire.
  10. Smell the roses not just see the roses.

Book your kinesiology appointment today if you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious and together, we will create calm amid chaos. We are now offering online kinesiology balances.

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Does stress make you tired!

Does stress make you tired and why!

Welcome to all the stressed Mums out there. The ones who are juggling young children, work/life balance, feeling like there is no tomorrow or even a moment in the day to just sit and be! Going to the toilet is a major event requiring lots of strategic maneuvering, generally shared by all members of the family even the cat or dog! Don’t get me started on sleep deprivation! How long is it since you had a wonderful blissful night’s sleep? While we are at it, how’s your brain functioning, you do remember your brain? It used to work really well, could remember the most tiny and irrelevant information, however now it’s a struggle to even remember why you have gone into a room and where those wretched car keys were placed.

So, who is to blame for this crazy chaotic life? Yourself? Children? Partner? Life? The answer is yes to all of them and yet it is not the answer as well. Hmmm! No, I am not on something ? All of your life and the various factors and conditions, contribute, to the number one reason for chaos. STRESS! Stress makes you tired. Discover how to create calm amid your chaos.

Stress by definition is “Stress is the internal process that occurs when a person is faced with a demand that is perceived to exceed the resources available to respond to it effectively, and where effective failure to deal with the demand has important and undesirable consequences” A stress trigger is a causal point in which an incident activates this internal process. The higher negative emotional response to the initial incident, the more likely it is that this will be become a default response.

Everyone has a specific and finite amount of ‘energy’ to allow them to get through their day. These energy reserves are supplemented by giving your body extra fuel through good nutrition choices, adequate rest breaks and by keeping stress levels manageable. They are further assisted by a good night of quality sleep, something that is often easier said than done, especially when you are juggling too many balls in the air.

The energy reserves can also be impacted by health, someone dealing with a medical challenge has less initial energy reserves and uses more energy doing everyday things. The result is less energy, more frustration, brain fog, a quick anger switch and you guessed it…less capacity to have a good night’s sleep.

Try telling a busy mum with children and work/family life responsibilities to make sure she has a good night’s sleep. You had better duck as that is last thing she needs to be told, it’s a fact she knows only too well and yet each night she struggles more and more to get to sleep. The inability to get to sleep, to stay asleep or to wake up refreshed can very quickly become a stress trigger.

There is a solution to this dilemma.

Imagine you are planting a good night sleep seed. You plant the seed with the expectation it will provide the good sleep, however when sleep doesn’t happen or you wake up still tired, the initial reaction is generally one of annoyance or anger. The brain registers this sequence of events and opens a file called ‘Good Night’s Sleep” and each time you don’t have a good night’s sleep it adds that annoyed/angry reaction to the file and this file gets bigger and bigger. Interestingly, if by chance you do have a good night’s sleep, quite often a positive reaction is not overly acknowledged, because it may not last! In time the very thought of sleeping will trigger a stress response and become the default response to sleep.

Would you like to know how to retrain the brain to have a better default response to sleep? Each night as you get ready for bed, set the intention of having the best night sleep ever.  Relax yourself with the thought of waking up tomorrow feeling refreshed and energised. Thank yourself for this opportunity. When you get into bed, don’t move into exactly the same spot as normal, change the spot you are resting on and again acknowledge the good sleep ahead. When your brain starts with all the information that it wants you to remember, let it know all is well and that it is on the to-do list for tomorrow. Tell yourself it is safe to sleep, knowing that if any emergency happens during the night you will hear and deal with it. Relax! Allow your muscles to soften and feel comfortable.

Just as your brain added the negative responses to the file “Good Night’s Sleep” you are now adding a positive response. So even if you find yourself momentarily relaxing, acknowledge the thought and say well done! If you sleep for 5 minutes longer, say well done! Eventually the brain will understand that the best reaction is the positive ones and it will make this the default response.

The ‘thought’ of sleep is no longer adding stress to your life and it will stop draining your energy reserves.

Lavender essential oil is also a natural relaxant, place a couple of drops onto a hanky and tuck into your pillow slip or defuse in a diffuser to further calm the senses.

Do you need more help? I provide one on one kinesiology consultations in my clinic, I invite you to visit my website to book a complimentary 15-minute discovery session, and we can chat about how I can be of further assistance to you. There is also my amazing online program that shows your how to easily and naturally de-stress, with practical tips and self help kinesiology techniques safe to use for all members of your family.

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Does your child find learning fun and rewarding?

Learning should be fun and rewarding so why do so many children and families struggle with the basic concepts of education. These children seem to find even the most basic tasks overwhelming and hard. Yet quite often they are extremely bright in certain subjects or activities.

For a child to be able to easily learn and build their knowledge banks the basic functions of the brain have to work effortlessly, both the left and right sides (known as hemispheres), have to communicate with each other and respond appropriately. Imagine what could happen when the two hemispheres of their brain are not communicating?

The brain has both a left and right hemisphere and they are connected by a bundle of nerve fibres called the Corpus Callosum. This region lets one side of the brain communicate with the other and allows exchange of communication. It can be likened to an advanced telephone switchboard. As a message is bought in the switchboard operator must decide where to send it. If the information is sent to a neighbouring point by mistake, then chaos can occur. If the corpus callosum is ‘working’ we can see it all, hear it all, remember it all, have easy co-ordination, write easily, feel centred, are focused and anticipating the next step.

Generally, the left hemisphere deals with the logical, sequential, language, numbers and academic symbols, auditory and conscious control. The right hemisphere often referred to as the Gestalt, is more involved with the artistic, musical, imagination, fantasy, parallel processing, face recognition and feelings.

The left hemisphere works with focal, analytical and serial processing while the right hemisphere works with diffuse, holistic and simultaneous processing. There is a direct link between specific learning difficulties and hemispheric integration. Every learning task requires two types of processing. When the two halves are not working together in an integrated manner then the person has unilateral or one-sided processing. Too much ‘try brain’ and the learner finds it hard to get the big picture and too much ‘reflex brain’ the learner has difficulty concentrating and thinking logically.

Many kinds of stress on the body/mind affect hemispheric integration. Also, hereditary factors and early childhood emotional and developmental stress can also affect integration.

By removing blockages that are causing difficulties the symptoms of learning difficulties and the ongoing stresses of going through learning curves will often fade away. The body brain computer is being programmed every moment of our life and by giving it a better option can lead to enjoyment of learning and growth.

Kinesiology techniques may assist in brain integration and the release of emotional issues that could be hindering your child’s learning.

Take for example a child who finds reading a burden. At a young age they may have been ridiculed in class for stumbling over words, this causes a stress memory. The next time they are asked to read their brain has already remembered that it caused a stress and as they start to stumble again the class laughs at them causing a further stress memory. Eventually the mere thought of reading can cause their brain to stop functioning as they go into a panic stress response. Reading can be considered by their brain to be dangerous and embarrassing. It is interesting to note that the same child could enjoy reading by themselves and not find it difficult at all.  

Identifying the causal stress response and replacing it with a better option that does not hinder the brain integration helps to create a new neural pathway. It is then possible to build on that neural pathway so that the child is not caused a stress response to “reading aloud”.

Another interesting point is children (and adults) who experience dyslexia or visual challenges can often find it easier to read upside down and back to front than reading the traditional left to right way. During my kinesiology training one of our teachers was dyslexic and if he became overtired or stressed his reading became challenged. One day he demonstrated his ability to read back to front without stumbling or hesitation. He mentioned it also had to do with the fact that no one was expecting him to be able to read that way so that the pressure to perform was off him.

Kinesiology can help create calm amid the chaos by taking the stress out of your homelife and assisting your child to find learning fun, rewarding and enjoyable. Contact me today to discover how we can work together.

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Kinesiology – the Mystery Solved!

Kinesiology, a wonderful natural therapy is fast becoming a must for anyone who is searching for the answers to their health and life challenges.  Kinesiology empowers you to take notice of what is limiting you in your life, to identify what, who and why you are restricted.

The History of Kinesiology.

What is it?

For those who find it hard to say it, it’s pronounced as kin…easy…ology.  Kinesiology uses the principle of the Triangle of Health, to describe how the “whole person” must be in balance in the physical, emotional and bio-chemical sides of our lives to have a happy and healthy existence.  Kinesiology (kenetics) is the study of movement and the forces that restrict or limit it. This restriction or limitation can come from many various forms of trauma including emotional, physical and bio chemical trauma.  The brain our super computer has a massive filing system where it stores all of our memories, events, sequences, and emotions. It uses neural pathways to transmit the messages required for optimal function. Trauma blocks these pathways and the associated emotional trigger causes stress and disharmony.  Muscles work as a part of a synergistic group, not independently. Groups of muscles working harmoniously allow smooth, instant and comfortable movement however, even one underperforming muscle affects the whole unit.

What happens during the Balance?

A typical kinesiology balance involves taking a detailed personal history, priority issues are discussed, positive goals formulated and importantly an emotional trigger identified.  The client is usually lying on massage table, undressing is not required. A technique called muscle monitoring facilitates to identify imbalances, establish priority healing and to evaluate change.  The body is at all times aware of what is required to heal, however sometimes a little nudge or guidance is required. We often tend to ignore the small hints we get of not feeling quite right, so the body gives us a bigger clue that makes us sit up and take notice.  

How can it help me?

Kinesiology is an amazing modality and improvement may be noticed after just one treatment, subject to your state of health and circumstances.  The overlying benefit of kinesiology is the uncanny ability of your body to identify the primary emotional trigger for the stress response. Kinesiology is second to none in identifying the stress triggers of your life.  Structural injury, headaches, pain, learning difficulties, emotional trauma, phobias, chemical and food sensitivities, business blockages and stuff too crazy to talk about are some of the many possible reasons to visit a kinesiologist.  Corporations and businesses are using kinesiology more and more as a unique therapy in their corporate health and wellbeing programs, especially in assisting with staff work stress issues.

This relatively new modality which was once considered a little weird and wacky is now gaining popularity and professional credibility.  

Kinesiology is life changing.  The question is are you ready for change?

Call 0407 029943 or Contact us to make a appointment.

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Aromatherapy & You

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Aromatherapy has been used for many years to uplift and inspire us. It is the basis of the perfumery and cosmetic industry, however my passion for it comes for the use of aromatherapy in our health and wellness journey.

Your sense of smell is one of the five senses for the human body. It is also one of the most attuned sense we have, often used in an subconscious way. Just imagine the smell of grandma\’s apple pie being baked? Did my question invoke a memory? Generally the body will automatically go back to a time when it could remember and sense the pie baking? It responded to a memory trigger.

I incorporate essential oils in my practice and use them to address emotional energy imbalances, to uplift and to anchor healing options for my clients.

The same concept can be used to anchor the feeling of calm, clarity,safety, harmony etc felt after a kinesiology or natural therapy balance. By using an essential oil within the therapy session the body can return to that safe space at a later time if needed by simply smelling the oil again.
I invite you to contact me to discuss how, you, can also use essential oils for yourself and family members health and harmony.

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It takes a village to write a book!

It takes a village to write a book!

Yesterday I launched my first solo authored book.

OMG what a feeling! Creating Calm amid Chaos written by Marney C Perna! It was almost surreal to be actually there talking about the how, why and what I had done to achieve it. I had “done” that part so many times in my mind, my journal-ling and my visualizations that I hoped I wasn’t repeating myself constantly.

The euphoria and pride in myself was liquid gold. I mean that in a good way. I personally know so many authors and I had been feeling a bit…”so ok I wrote a book, so have many others” “it is really no big deal” . But you know what, it is a big deal and it is an awesome feeling. I was thrilled to be able to share why I wrote it, for whom I wrote and the help, support and guidance I received in writing it. Even to acknowledge how often I had decided not to finish it and the many reasons I gave myself that it would be OK not to finish it! I hope that by sharing my light bulb moment of realizing that my inner secret fear of “if it is not finished or published it was not a failure” and being able to move past that to “seriously..just do it Marney!” gives you the permission to know that it will be ok. Do not let the fear of what if’s failure over shadow the potential of what if’s it a success!

I also know it takes a village to write a book. My village helped me write it. My village where my tribe lives. My tribe is my family, my close friends, my clients, my colleagues and my support team. People who love me and believe in me even when they are not sure what I am doing. People who are willing to stand up and say well done and mean it, to convince me to keep going and to keep me accountable. People who back their words with action, love and the occasional kick up the proverbial :) People who inspire me to live up to their pride in me and their conviction of my ability to succeed.

Thank you all so much

Wish It, Dream it, Do it!

You will be so glad you did.

Blessings
Marney Perna
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